to the real bullies of the world (mom bloggers)

Perfect post re: blogging mothers + insensitivity = judgmental bullies. I was never as aware as I am about sensitive issues/choices and opinions prior to becoming a Mom. As Mothers, our parenting choices are constantly under scrutiny. As we research and attempt to validate our choices, the more opinionated and confused we become. Instead of believing in ourselves and supporting each other, we either ignore those whose choices are unwavering (for being so black and white) or fall into a circular pattern of confusion by experimenting with everything that everyone else is doing. We need to trust that we know what’s best for our families and support each other during this journey.

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PHOTO BY STEVE E. MILLER, COURTESY OF NEW TIMES

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You are part of a blogging community that rivals, if not exceeds, the size of my own: indie authors. I’m not going to lie and pretend that I make a point of reading very many parenting blogs. If I happen to know the author, or there’s a really interesting hook, I’ll devote the time to it. But I’m not a mom, and I don’t plan on ever becoming one.

“So what?” you might reasonably ask. “You aren’t a lot of things, but I’ll bet you still read about them.”

While I’m not entirely certain I’m comfortable with you arguing with me on my own blog, it’s a fair point.

But I have another reason for avoiding most mom-themed blogs: They tend to be overly judgmental. Bear in mind, that this is a newspaper editor and wanna-be indie author saying this. I’m…

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who’s who – entitlement

What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude.

Brené Brown

Ever notice the very ones accusing others of entitlement are really the ones with entitlement issues/decreased gratitude themselves?  When I offer up or ask for anything, whether it be material items, words, or gestures, I’m usually doing it with the best and most gracious intentions.  Not everyone may positively accept them (or me) every single time.  But the least one could do is show gratitude and respectfully decline.  All interactions are privileges.  Treat them as such and be grateful for the interactions others choose to share with you.