to the real bullies of the world (mom bloggers)

Perfect post re: blogging mothers + insensitivity = judgmental bullies. I was never as aware as I am about sensitive issues/choices and opinions prior to becoming a Mom. As Mothers, our parenting choices are constantly under scrutiny. As we research and attempt to validate our choices, the more opinionated and confused we become. Instead of believing in ourselves and supporting each other, we either ignore those whose choices are unwavering (for being so black and white) or fall into a circular pattern of confusion by experimenting with everything that everyone else is doing. We need to trust that we know what’s best for our families and support each other during this journey.

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PHOTO BY STEVE E. MILLER, COURTESY OF NEW TIMES

You are part of a blogging community that rivals, if not exceeds, the size of my own: indie authors. I’m not going to lie and pretend that I make a point of reading very many parenting blogs. If I happen to know the author, or there’s a really interesting hook, I’ll devote the time to it. But I’m not a mom, and I don’t plan on ever becoming one.

“So what?” you might reasonably ask. “You aren’t a lot of things, but I’ll bet you still read about them.”

While I’m not entirely certain I’m comfortable with you arguing with me on my own blog, it’s a fair point.

But I have another reason for avoiding most mom-themed blogs: They tend to be overly judgmental. Bear in mind, that this is a newspaper editor and wanna-be indie author saying this. I’m…

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daily prompt: i believe

daily prompt: i believe

For today’s prompt, tell us three things that you believe in your heart to be true. Tell us three things you believe in your heart to be false.

This is the first “Daily Prompt” I’m participating in.  Not because I didn’t want to participate before, but because I only just realized the purpose of this “Daily Prompt.”  Great concept for a new blogger like me, who has difficulty with a blank slate and starting from scratch.  At first glance, it seemed like an easy topic, but as I began writing, its complexity evolved.  Or maybe I just over thought it like how I over think everything.  I haven’t read any responses yet in order to prevent me from being influenced, so here it goes…

Top three things I believe in my heart to be true (the list version):

1. Having kids changes everything, for better and/or for “worse.”
2. (Mostly) everything happens for a reason.
3. Doing something half-ass is one of the hardest things for me to do, even when quality doesn’t matter.

Top three things I believe in my heart to be false (the list version):

1. Impossibility (if it’s truly impossible, it’s probably unrealistic).
2. Boredom (there’s always something to think about or do).
3. Normality.

Phew, writing this was challenging.  However, I think it opened up some channels for further discussion and elaboration.

Or maybe even some questions and/or challenges?  I look forward to your opinions and comments!